Lick This

People please STOP putting ya'lls mouths on everything you think is: cute/fine, smells good, has a good job, drives a nice car, has a nice crib, dresses well, degreed up (has 1 or more college degrees), speaks well, bodied up (baad meaning good body), blah, blah, blah

Especially y'all men, because y'all are the first ones that wanna lick and taste something! A male friend called and told me the honey he thought tasted like mangos and sum otha exotic fruits (well, not his words, exactly, my line from my blog "Excuse Me Ms") finally allowed him to taste the fruit and what he received in return was  Herpes, yep, that for which there is no cure.

I just read an article on www.ashastd.org that stated Nearly 1 in 2 African American adults have genital Herpes, but 90% don't know it.  WTF!! That sure is high! So, that means every other black person has Herpes??? Awww, hell to the no, that study can't be right! Can it?? If so, that's scary!

Hmm, reading those stats had me thinking about the "Tuskegee syphilis experiment" (with a twist) which was conducted btw 1932-1972 in Alabama on black men (if you are not familiar with this, slap ya self then Google it).

In another article, same site, it was stated: Experimental trial Herpes vaccine doesn't work for women. Well double damn! Eve really F*#%*d things up, when she had Adam bite that apple: Periods, labor pain, too damn emotional and now a Herpes vaccine that doesn't work for women... 4Realz??? What part of the game is that!

Ok, back to my friend, he said he ONLY sucked her Ussy once and hasn't been with anyone, besides his right hand, in a minute. A week after the sampling and savoring, he said he got a strange cluster of bumps and to his dismay was diagnosed with Herpes. Now, his ass is all mad. "Damn, she didn't look like she had nothing," Is what he said. I stared at the phone, and said, "4realz, Son!"

Now for my PSA (Public Service Announcement): If you are really into oral satisfaction, giving or receiving, consider using a dental dam.  www.sgfelken.com has pictures and explains it's use during oral activity. I'm pretty sure the feeling won't be as intense, but you will avoid the clusters my boy has, is all...

Reciprocity

**Before reading this, please read RECEIVERS and THE MIKE TYSON SYNDROME (MTS)***

Men, when you sleep with a woman it is very important to call and say hi, what's up or how are ya, the next day, even if you don't plan on ever seeing her again.

Most women would like to think giving themselves to you meant a lil somethin (especially if you've hung out a few times).

Fella's expect a bit of emotion, on the receivers part, to come with the receipt of your joy stick; Rather you like it (No, not the sex, the emotion) or not. Even a text (So Los Angeles) is better than nada.

When that very small token of appreciation is not extended unnecessary hurt feelings are created and depending on the woman's experiences and emotional luggage, something far more serious could be born: Stalker Or MTS.

Doesn't matter if you just wanted to hit and run, don't make the woman feel like you only wanted the Ussy, even if it's the truth.)You never know, when you'll have a dry spell, so like my mama says, "Don't burn no bridges"). Hey, Hi, What's up, how are you... #isall

I'm just saying be appreciative and show some reciprocity.

Excuse me Ms

"Bonita Applebum you gotta put me on..." Is what played in my head when I saw Her.

And, Her smile...It was so, so E LEC TRI FYING...

Mmmmmm, she smelled so nice was it Jo Malone, Marc Jacobs  or Balenciaga...

The mere touch of her skin ignited something animalistic inside me...

The sweet melodic sound of Her voice as she said, "Hello," sent chills of joy throughout my  EN TIRE EX IS TANCE...

I bet she tastes like mangos and sum otha exotic fruits. I can tell.

She enticed all 5 of my senses and by looking into Her big brown eyes I umm, I, I knew we'd need some prophylactics.

"Excuse me Ms," is what this brutha is going to say, next time I see her. Excuse me Mssssss...

Hello and welcome to BEAUTIFUL MIND, BODY, SOUL and SPIRIT.  I wrote this in the voice of a man.  Clever, huh.  This is what I think men think when they see beautiful women.  This particular peice took place in a grocery store in my mind.  The MIND is a BEAUTIFUL thing, Don't you agree.   

Make Love To My Body, Not My Mind

Ladies, a Nu man that makes love to your mind is more addicting and  intoxicating than one that makes love to your body.

Mind love is much more sensual, intimate and orgasmic.

Foreplay for a man that makes love to your mind is: Gently and methodically caressing your thoughts, Staring so deeply into your soul you shiver and sometimes you even speak in tongues, Making you laugh till you cry, Penetrating your being so deeply you think of him even when you sleep, Communicating to you with only his eyes and lips and the ability to make your Beautiful Mind Body Soul and Spirit come alive and feel brand Nu, all without physical love making of any kind.

If I had to choose between a man making passionate love to my mind or to my body, I'd choose the latter. I've experienced mind love and I'll just say that, for me, physical love making is easier to shake and control. Yes, really. Lol! Is all.

Mind vs Body which will you choose...

Happy Monday!

Wolves in Sheeps clothes

My mother always told me to beware of wolves in sheeps clothes. Well, ladies, I'm passing that advice on to you.

The wolves I'm speaking of, today, are the married ones.

Ladies, Let's be honest, you know 98% of the time when a man is married even when he doesn't have on a band.

If you're a little slow, these are the clues:

A - You've never been to his crib. B - You only have his cell. C - You've only met one of his boys (they always tell one). D - You haven't seen his baby daughter since she started talking  E - You only see him the day before a holiday: Thanksgiving eve, or the Day after: February 15th.  F - He always gets up in the middle of the night to leave. G - He never takes you out in public, but he brings you take out from Maestro's, (come on, who does that). H - You've been taken to the hospital, but he can't come because it's 6 and that's when he sits down with his family for dinner.

The other 2% of the time there is some real trickeration in motion. What a wolf in sheeps clothing does is: Have his very own love nest AKA Lair (resting place for wild animals). And of course the wife doesn't know about it. You even spend the night and park in his space. When you're sneaking peeks, in cabinets, there are no signs of a woman (No tampons or nail polish). He takes you to nice public places (Wife, her friends or her fam never go to that side of town). He intro's you to his friends and a few of his relatives. He does everything a single man, your man, would do.

Once your body and mind begins to crave him, the truth somehow reveals itself (of course he doesn't tell you). Maybe a "friend" or relative, who thought you knew, lets his status "slip." You're devastated, because you thought he was the ONE! You ask him why he hadn't told you and he says, "Because I knew you wouldn't F%#k with me."

Wolves, that's a low down dirty shame!

Ladies, you've invested all your time, emotions (ya'll know how emotional we can be) and energy on a wolf. It hurts, I know from my own experience with a wolf back in my formative years.

What do you do, now... You step, no matter how difficult. You MUST walk away. Your dream has turned into a nightmare and your reality has been turned upside down.

I normally have suggestions or answers, but Unfortunately, I have no answer to detect the wolf, because they live 2 full and complete lives.

Wolves in sheeps clothes, are real. *Howlingggg*

Don't Stay

Don't Stay

Funny how decisions we MUST make to be fully happy, sometimes hurt someone/others.

Life is so short and unpredictable. YOU should NOT  stay in a situation to make someone/others happy while you are miserable (miserable meaning you have not been happy w/that person for a long time. Not that they've just pissed you off).

Life is for living and at times tough decisions MUST be made to live an abundant life!

DON'T stay for the children, Continue to take care of them in a happy environment. DON'T stay because of the beautiful home, Move into an apartment and be HAPPY. DON'T stay because you fill obligated because they helped you through school and was with you when you were broke, Apologize and give them a very generous departure gift. DON'T stay because you think you can't find anyone as pretty/handsome or with a 6 pack or brown round, Just walk 3 blocks and turn left, Damn, there another one is! DON'T stay because they buy you expensive gifts, You have enough to last a life time. DON'T stay because they threaten to kill themselves, Pray for them and keep moving your boxes.

STAY only if you want to  further stifle your growth and prolong that unhappy feeling.

Everyone is in charge of their own happiness... DON'T be a casualty.

Run Jane Run

Years ago, I walked into Compton Courts District attorneys office and was alarmed by what I saw. It was a wall with pictures of hundreds of women, from varying states, that had been murdered by their significant others. The ages ranged from 13 to 82.

Domestic violence has no color line or socioeconomic status.

Years later, I walked into a murder suicide scene that clearly remains in my mind. When she could no longer tolerate his controlling ways and grew tired of the beatings, she left. After months of building a Nu and happy life in a different city, she agreed to meet him at a public place, deadly mistake... Women, DO NOT do that. No good can come of it.

As we all know, abuse comes in different forms: Verbal, physical, sexual and psychological. And, the perpetrator is 27% times a woman and 73% times a man.

Besides the obvious hitting, if YOU are being told you're ugly, fat, no one else would want YOU, being forced to have sex, being isolated from your family and friends, and the perpetrator governing every single aspect of your life, that IS abuse.

As the book, "Dick and Jane" (A book used in schools in the 70's to teach children to read) said, "Run Jane Run," gurl YOU need to leave. YOU deserve better and YOU are worth so much more than his crash test dummy doll.

I understand it may be difficult financially, for some and YOU may be afraid, because of threats, "If you leave me, I'll kill you," (Which he/she is already doing in a spiritual sense), but develop a plan and get ghost.

Shelters are available, if YOU don't have a friend or relative willing to take YOU in.

Unless YOU know a "Pookie and nem" get a restraining order they help, sometimes. If cops are called regarding a domestic violence matter, they can issue  a Temporary restraining order (TRO), which takes effect that very moment, but YOU MUST go to court on the specified date to have it solidified.

NEVER agree to meet him after the fact even if YOU share children. Some are so sick they'll take YOU and the children out. Former NY Nicks, center, Eddie Curry's, girlfriend, a 24 year old woman from Chicago and their 9 month old daughter was murdered in "09" by her ex boyfriend an attorney.

She met the 37 year old attorney when he defended her in a case against Curry for their first child, a 3 year old boy. The young woman and her baby were both shot numerous times after she allowed her ex who she previously had a restraining order against, but had it dropped, into her condo. Her 3 year old son was the witness (Google the story).

Ladies, please don't allow yourself to fall victim to DV, the signs are normally blaring and plainly written: Jealously, possessiveness, name calling, pulling on YOU, "Gurl, I'm jus playn." uh uh, S I G N S

If you find yourself in an abusive situation, Please do yourself a favor and, "Run Jane Run."

The Mike Tyson Syndrome (MTS)

Ladies, if you are a consenting adult and have a consensual intimate encounter with a man,  it is NOT rape if: He does not walk you to the door afterwards, call you the next day, ignore your texts, decline an invite or doesn't leave home.  Women, I'm not discounting your hurt feelings, but it is NOT rape.

Within the past 24 hours 2 rape allegations have been brought forward.  After being interviewed, the women cited one of the above...

If there is any doubt you may not be able to handle the mind/behavior of the detached male, after the pleasure principle, (You know yourself better than anyone) DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT proceed. (Refer to my BLOG "RECEIVERS").

Bringing a false rape allegation against a man is horribly wrong in every sense.

Ladies, Play fair and if you can't, do what my mom always told me to do, "Keep ya drawers up and your dress down."

Hello and welcome to: Beautiful Mind, Body, Soul and Spirit

F me pumps

"When you walk in the bar and you're dressed like a star Rockn' your F me pumps and the man notices you with your Gucci bag crew. Can't tell who he's looking to.

Cuzz y'all all look the same everyone knows your name and that's your whole claim to fame...Never miss a night, cuzz your dream in life is to be a footballers wife.

You're more then a fan, looking for a man, but you end up with one night stands, he could be your whole life if you got past one night, but that part never goes right..."

One of my favorite AMY WINEHOUSE songs, "F ME PUMPS"

Ladies, if this sounds like you, time to change what you do: 1 - Stop sleeping with men you just meet. Give it some time, cultivate a friendship, find out the N*#%#s last name. 2 - If looking for a man with some money, STOP going to the Dynasty, the Cork, Frieda's and the Savoy. Change it up and start going to upscale hotel bars, you'll definitely find men of substance and dollars there (not that there aren't any at the aforementioned bars). Beverly Hills has plenty. 3 - Pick up a new hobby.  Golf would be an excellent choice. Get some cheap clubs from Big 5, Ninety-nine dollars and take a few lessons. 4 - Start smoking cigars and begin
frequenting cigar lounges. Cigar lounges are cool and the men are laid back, gentlemanly and most importantly you have choices (for etiquette in cigar lounges, please read my blog  HUMP). Cigars are Also welcome, poolside, at hotel lounges. 5 - Look Good, "Hair done nails done everything did." Just don't over do it. DO NOT have chipped nails or fake designer bags AND PLEASE DO NOT HAVE THE PLASTIC PIECE OF YOUR PUMP MISSING where you're walking on the metal. NOT a good look or sound "Clank clank."  6 - Brush up on newsworthy events and politics.

7 - Buy a bottle of Jo Malone and Balenciaga. (Men are really attracted to expensive smells). Spray it starting at the top of your head, yes hair too (You may be talking to a very tall man. Why not allow him the pleasure of being intoxicated by "Jo or B"). Not necessary to use much, because these fragrances are expensive and go along way.  Periodically,  freshen up your fragrance, with a squirt, when you go to the ladies room to powder your nose (An oily face is a no no). 8 - Smile and flirt with your eyes subtly. AVOID HAVING THAT HUNGRY look, that scares men. 9 - DO NOT take your posse. NO need giving a man too many choices. You want to be the belle of the ball.

"You did too much E, you met somebody and spent the night getting caned.." 10 - Ladies leave the drugs alone and DO NOT drink too much. The only thing that can come of this is you sitting on his D#*k in your car in the parking lot. If that happens you've set a bad precedent and you will be "Dusting off your F me pumps" and getting busy in your car in a parking lot the entire relationship.  11 - When wearing a dress, legs MUST be shaved to a smooth finish and topped off with something that will make them shiny (Vaseline works).  12- Men are really turned on by "F me pumps," so wear them. 

Lastly, ladies, ALWAYS act like a lady, keep it slightly sexy and have your own money.

"You don't like players, that's what you said, but you really wouldn't mind a millionaire, you don't like ballers, they don't do nothing for you, but you'd like a rich man 6 foot 2 or taller..."

Enjoy, your "F me pumps" responsibly

Practice what you preach

She screamed it from the mountain top, "No Glove, No Love, cause you never know what these N*%#*'s got!"

She had it all and lived the American dream, but what she didn't have was a man with the 3 6's: A 6 pack, a 6 figure salary and a 6" d*%k.

When she found him and opened the handsomely wrapped package, she was presented with a gift that she'd have for the rest of her life AIDS. She did not practice what she preached...

Thirty years ago, last week, the 1st 2 people in the United States died of Pneumonia that was attributed to Aids. During that time, it was known as a disease only homosexual men got. When Magic Johnson was diagnosed, it became an epidemic.

My friend works in a clinic in Los Angeles. Over the past 3 years, she said, the face of AIDS is women over 50 years old. These women had been married for a significant part of their lives and   have found themselves single, because of divorce or death. They contracted the virus through a dating relationship.

A sure way to avoid HIV/AIDS is to be tested together. But, since we live in an, "I want it now society," please use condoms.

Remember to, "Wrap It Up."

The darker the berry

I think dark sista's are some of the most beautiful women on earth. My mom is a chocolate sista and I can remember growing up staring at her in total aw and amazement as she applied her rouge and put on her panty hose and beautiful clothes (she taught me to be the fashionista I am). 

Her skin was and still is so smooth, kinda like Hershey's dark chocolate. She exuded the confidence of a regal queen. In my eyes and that of some of my friends, she was the most beautiful of them all. 

I didn't know until much later that some of the dark sista's I thought were so beautiful, had a complex about the hue of their skin. Sad thing is the insecurity was created not only by taunts from the school yard, but by family members, that were suppose to love and protect them. Who would say to a teenager, "Don't believe the hype, cause your dark berry juice ainte sweet at all?" but an ignorant fool! 

I recently spoke to a friend who confided that she's still struggling with that and she's in her 40's. When a fine man tries to talk to her, she questions his motives, because "Why would
he be interested in me, as dark as I am?" 

Another said she loves black men, but had her babies with a man of another race so they
wouldn't suffer as she had. A sad shame...

Chocolate sista's, that don't already know, y'all are beautiful! Embrace, except and love the skin you are in. Who Eva doesn't like it, "F#*%k em and feed em beans," in the words of my beautiful deep chocolate mama!

Peace, I'm out